You are not who you think you are.
You are so much more.
The true story of you is bigger and brighter and more magnificent than the story you’ve been living in.
And if you want to be that brighter, more expansive, more magnificent you then you have to drop the story of who you’ve been.
To be who you’re meant to be requires letting go of who you’ve been.
If you know me personally, then you know that I LOVE reading. From biographies and memoirs to self-help and spirituality, to business and finance, to history and poetry, to thrillers and romantic suspense, to women’s fiction and erotica—I love it all.
And I firmly believe (despite what I’ve heard in the business and online coaching worlds over the years) that we can learn and grow through fiction.
Perhaps not all fiction, because there’s definitely some rubbish out there with flat characters and more of a story dip than a story arc. (Although the same can be said about all genres—rubbish isn’t confined to fiction.)
But I firmly land in the camp that fiction can be valuable beyond the entertainment it provides.
In a recently read novel, the hero of the story is a guy from the wrong side of the tracks, he grew up poor. Abandoned by his father when he was young and then his mother several years later after she had a daughter with another man.
He worked hard to make sure his sister had everything she needed, caring for her after a terrible accident that required many surgeries and a great deal of rehab. He built a successful company, bought a huge plot of land with gorgeous mountain views, and built a beautiful craftsman home. And despite a reputation with the ladies became a respected businessman.
Now our heroine is the innocent daughter of the town’s pastor. She worked hard her whole life to be a “good girl” (a label deserving of its own post) and only recently left the security of her parents’ home and her job as secretary of her father’s church.
Shortly, after being hired by our hero to fill the role of personal assistant their relationship soon crossed the line from professional to personal…okay, totally predictable, but the book was still worth reading.
While they were falling in love, our hero was battling with himself. Convinced that he wasn’t worthy and that our heroine was slumming it with him and would soon leave because he wasn’t enough.
He continued to tell this story about how he’s a bad guy, unfit for the likes of her, not worthy, not capable of love or commitment. Even though his sister, our heroine, and even the pastor all told him otherwise.
But until he was ready to drop that story their relationship was doomed.
Now, here’s my point. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says if you believe a contradictory story.
You’re never going to get what you want if you’re holding onto a story about why you can’t have it.
You are never going to have the life you want if you’re holding onto a story about why you can’t have it.
If you want to be different then you’ve got to write a story that supports who you want to be.
If you want to have different results in your business then you need to tell yourself a story that aligns with those results.
If you want to be happy, healthy, and abundant then your story MUST support you in being happy, healthy, and abundant.
If you don’t have what you want then ask yourself
What story am I telling myself?
Dig into it.
Get radically honest with yourself about the story you’re telling yourself.
And then rewrite the fucking story.
The story of your life isn’t carved in stone. You can change it.
Right now, you can choose to tell yourself a new story.
The story of you is up to you. Make it an epic one.
Remember, you absolutely can Love Your Life and Live Your Dreams. It all begins within.